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In the book of Genesis, God (yea….God Himself) perhaps thinking out loudly said that “it is not good for man to be alone… I (God) will make a helper suitable for him.” Many have run away with this, pushing the idea that being single is synonymous with loneliness or unhappiness. That Bible verse however (found in Genesis Ch. 2) does not say that it is not good for man to not be in romantic relationships.

Notwithstanding it being the backdrop for He (God) creating Eve as Adam’s companion, it does not exclusively put being with someone in the context of romantic relationships. I believe that this could also be easily applied to platonic relationships.

Contrary to what many believe, ‘being alone’ (or being single), is not synonymous with loneliness. I am currently single, for example, and I am actually quite content in that I am single, while I’m single. Taking that into account, some have argued that I am selfish for “keeping all of the love” to myself. I beg to differ. Being single does not mean that one cannot have or maintain sincere (platonic) relationships that are emotionally satisfying (in the reciprocal).

I am fortunate enough to have a strong network of friends who are not only emotionally, but spiritually grounded. By and large that plays a significant role in keeping me as grounded and emotionally fulfilled as I am today.

Many are not as lucky as I am in that regard, but that should not be the reason to get into a romantic relationship. I have determined that I will never get into a romantic relationship because ‘it is expected’ or so as to quell the misguided suspicions of who I call a few over-zealous bigots.

As someone who likes things on his own terms, I am often peeved when anyone tries to push me into a relationship. Personally I find that the driving force of a (platonic or romantic) relationship should be on my own terms.

Families, friends and even associates should be careful not to force their ideals of Mr. or Ms. right on anyone. It is not fair to either party if one enters a relationship for the purpose of fulfilling the fantasies of a third party.

Divorce rates are as high as they are today firstly because many are simply not ready for a relationship but still jump in because of the ‘it is expected’ factor. Secondly, many get caught up in loving the idea of having a romantic partner rather than loving the partner themselves. Both are wrong reasons.

Relationships are important and even though a (gentle) nudge is sometimes needed, they should not be forced on anyone. Personal choice, not pressure should be the determining factor. We can chose whether or not we wish to have a relationship with God; the same principle applies (or should apply) to platonic or romantic relationships.

Relationships are important. God Himself exists in what is the perfect relationship: the Trinity (God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit). He created us for relationships (platonic and romantic). It is not His desire that we be alone.

He wants us first to however develop a relationship with Him. Following His principles can play a significant role in developing healthy and successful relationships. Our relationship with Him ultimately affects our emotional well-being and the state of our emotional well-being determines the quality of the relationships that we get into. That said, He (through His word) must be the final arbiter when assessing potential or current relationships.

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